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Book Of Regrets

Updated: May 31



In Star Trek V: The Final Frontier, Captain Kirk is confronted by Dr. Mccoy (Kirk's best friend) and Sybok (Spock's brother). Sybok appears to have gained the ability to remove human pain and sorrow and wants to do this for Kirk. McCoy and Sybok plead with Kirk to allow him to do this.


MCCOY

(imploring)

Jim, try to be open about this.


KIRK

About what? That I've made the wrong choices in my life? That I went left when I should've gone right? I know what my weaknesses are. I don't need Sybok to take me on a tour of them.


MCCOY

If you'd just unbend and allow yourself--


KIRK

To be brainwashed by this man?


MCCOY

I was wrong. This "con man" took away my pain!


KIRK

Dammit, Bones, you're a doctor. You know that pain and guilt can't be taken away with the wave of a magic wand. They're the things we carry with us -- the things that make us who we are. If we lose them, we lose ourselves. I don't want my pain taken away. I need my pain.


Captain Kirk keeps a book of regrets. Not on paper but etched in his heart. He has it with him and it is dear to him.


People are often asked whether they have regrets and it is common to hear some variation of the following answer: "I have no regrets. My mistakes have made me who I am."


But having 'no regrets' is not the same as having had regrets and learned from them. The former could be called willful ignorance. The latter indicates that you have arrived at the other side of your regret.


Regret transforms from darkness into light only with reflection. The key requisite is to learn to take in regrets without being taken in by them.


Regret and pain are very real phenomenon. They can be ignored but they don't go away.


If you decide your actions don't reflect how you see yourself, change course. Rather than ignoring sorrow seek to learn from it. With a little effort you may be able to transform it into something useful. Maybe even something beautiful.